Taking a Closer Look at The Difference Between Feelings and Emotions
By Rebecca Leon, MHC-LP
When talking about our internal experiences, the words "feelings" and "emotions" are often used interchangeably. Although the two are closely related, you may be surprised to learn they are not the same thing. Emotions begin as physical sensations in the body, while feelings, though shaped by our emotions, arise from our mental thoughts (Allyn, 2022).
What Are Emotions?
Emotions are universal, automatic responses to external or internal stimuli. They are the raw data generated by the brain as a result of how we interpret or react to certain events or situations (Allyn, 2022). Emotions are often short-lived and intense. From a biological perspective, they are part of the body’s survival mechanism, preparing us to take immediate action, whether that’s to flee from danger, express joy, or deal with anger (BetterHelp, 2024).
According to psychologists Paul Ekman and Wallace Friesen, there are six universal emotions that all humans can experience, including happiness, sadness, fear, disgust, anger, and surprise. These emotions can be recognized across cultures and tend to be instinctual (BetterHelp). For example, if you hear a sudden loud noise, you might experience fear before you even process what caused the sound.
Emotions are also accompanied by physiological changes. When you're angry, for instance, your heart rate might increase, your muscles may tense, and your breathing could become quicker. These bodily responses are part of the fight-or-flight mechanism that prepares you to deal with the perceived threat or challenge (BetterHelp).
What Are Feelings?
Feelings, on the other hand, are the conscious experience of emotions. They arise when we become aware of our emotional states and can label or interpret them. Unlike emotions, feelings are shaped by our personal experiences, beliefs, and memories (Think Psych, 2022). They are more subjective and long-lasting compared to emotions, often lingering long after the initial emotional reaction has subsided.
While emotions are rooted in biology, feelings are more tied to our cognitive processes. For example, after the initial shock of hearing that loud noise, you might feel anxious if you associate the sound with a previous negative experience. In this way, feelings often serve as a bridge between our raw emotional responses and our broader understanding of the world (Allyn, 2022).
Feelings can also be more complex than basic emotions. You might feel shame, guilt, or pride—feelings that are shaped not just by the situation but by cultural norms, social expectations, and personal values (Think Psych). In short, feelings are how we make sense of our emotional reactions within the context of our individual lives.
Why Understanding the Difference Matters
Understanding the distinction between emotions and feelings is important for mental health and emotional well-being. By recognizing the difference, we can develop a stronger sense of self-awareness, learn to manage our emotional responses, and develop healthier coping mechanisms (BetterHelp). For example, experiencing the emotion of anger is natural, but how we interpret that anger as a feeling and allow it to influence our behavior can make a big difference in our relationships and mental health.
By becoming more aware of our emotions and feelings, we can move through the world with greater freedom. This awareness helps us identify the underlying causes, think deliberately, and engage in healthier behaviors. We can decide how to respond, react, or even disregard situations that trigger our emotions, which can lead to a more positive lifestyle (BetterHelp). Similarly, if we can identify when a fleeting emotion like sadness is turning into a prolonged feeling of hopelessness, we might be better equipped to seek support before it escalates.
Ultimately, emotions and feelings are both a huge part of the human experience. While emotions help us navigate immediate challenges, feelings provide deeper insights into how we perceive and interact with the world around us. Learning more about our feelings and emotions can help us create a greater sense of self-awareness and emotional resilience.
Sources
Allyn, R. (2022). The Important Difference Between Emotions and Feelings. Psychology Today.
BetterHelp Editorial Team. (2024). Is There a Difference Between Feelings And Emotions? BetterHelp.
ThinkPsych. (2022). What Is the Difference Between Feelings and Emotions? Think Psych.